The Trouble With Mars and Venus

By Badb Catha

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Edmund Blair Leighton, The Dedication

 

If anything highlights the need for a saner, restorative male-female counterbalance it’s the urban ghetto or the council estate. As bastions of single-mother households, they are perfect examples of matriarchy in action, or rather, of women in collective passivity. In the absence of positive male authority and leadership, children, most notably teen boys, run rampant. While those of European descent have been most deeply imbibed the dogma of permissive liberalism, other ethnic communities such as Sikhs, Muslims, etc. impose their own internal laws and mores onto their young. We do not, however, live in a world without externalities. When a son goes rampant, the entire community suffers through petty crime and the loss of another one of its members to life’s scrapheap. We live in a very strange time where deadbeat dads are (rightfully) scorned, while the most irresponsible of deliberately single mothers are championed as trailblazing heroines of the most ‘empowered’ variety.

Women’s liberation (read: freedom from obligation or personal responsibility) is given precedence over all, with no concern for what is fair, just, or indeed sensible. The ill effects of this are documented almost daily in newspaper hit pieces of British ‘Nightlife’, where the young sicken and gradually destroy themselves with excess alcohol. Meanwhile, more and more boys and young men are careening through life without a clear understanding of social sensibility or personal accountability, no doubt from a void of male leadership and fatherly involvement. Kowtowing to the material ‘needs’ of women is paramount, and very often these needs are to be met at the cost of taxpayers and the productive class, which has at its base white working class men. This leaves both parties uniquely vulnerable to social atomisation. By providing a meal ticket to irresponsible women in the form of child & housing benefit, single-motherhood becomes a form of social and financial capital in itself. Naturally, the mutual care principle of marriage (through sickness and health, as it is said) has been demoted to meaningless lip-service at best.

In a decadent society where individual wants trump tribal needs, this isn’t at all surprising. The consequence of being phobic of one extreme, of labelling any authentically and classically masculine virtues such as strength, courage, mastery, etc; as ‘proto-fascist’, ‘sexist’, or even as mental illness, leads to the internalised belief that the opposite – passivity, handouts gathering, suicidal tolerance and hedonistic self-destruction are entirely acceptable – Even politically correct! The staggering disasters showcased in British tabloids can be said to be many things, but ‘politically incorrect’ is not one of them.

Gang culture, thuggery, vandalism and wilful destruction are signs that a culture is attempting to sublimate the need for male action and violence. In the majority of traditional cultures, the masculine is not only associated war and martial prowess, but the virtues that create a warrior such as duty, responsibility, and ultimately, self-sacrifice. Masculinity is not merely an idea, but a biological/chemical reality which dictates the modus operandi of our species. Sexual dimorphism creates men to protect the perimeter, while women provide and nurture the next generation. A society bereft of male virtue is a society disarmed, and a society that denies men a chance to excel as men denies women anything to aspire to.

But arrested development is not exclusive to modern man. Feminine instinct, when projected and deflected within the anti-culture of societal decay, is just as damaging. Older women of generations past know that many of the principles that seem counter-intuitive to today’s young woman are actually in her best interest. For example, the rising levels of female promiscuity and unwanted pregnancy could be addressed, not by sex education classes, but by the wisdom of elders with a greater maturity and experience. Contrary to the wishful thinking of feminists and sex liberationists, most women do not have an insatiable libido and burning desire for multiple sex partners. Survival dictates that she find a mate of good quality, not only to sire her children, but to ensure the protection and prosperity of all involved.

Indeed, both sexual selectiveness and hypergamy can be seen across the animal kingdom, employed according to the pressure selection of the environment. A hazardous environment rewards fewer offspring with higher parental investment, a less threatening environ rewards the ability to outbreed the competition. Considering the extremely long gestation period seen in our species, the pair bond has always been of paramount importance for societal stability. The slower a child is to gestate and develop into an independent adult able to provide economic surplus, the more responsibility the female has to shoulder in being selective about her mate. ‘Modern’ girls, as ‘educated’ about sex and reproduction as they may be, are none the less naive, inexperienced and undisciplined in matters of courting and mate selection,  not to mention egged into promiscuity by our sex-sells entitlement culture of false promises. What we are effectively doing through Child Benefit and Child Support Allowance is subsidising women to have children with the worst of men. The nanny state continues to create growing number of men who ignore parental obligation in the most rudimentary way, and disappear before they can be forced to support children they are likely to be denied access to. Instead of becoming productive and provisionary, they become increasingly more destructive and predatory. The young woman soon becomes the young single mother, bitter, jaded and none the wiser. Social isolation from wider society in favour of a ‘girls own’ club of single mothers is soon to follow, removing a woman from any sense of reciprocal respect between the sexes and firmly placing her in a closed, matriarchal society which is ‘supportive’ of succumbing to self-destructive whims.

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John William Waterhouse, Penelope and the Suitors

Clearly, the social strategies deployed by men and women could not be any different. While the self-actualised woman intuits the needs of the individual, the self-actualised man intellectualises the need of the collective. When a harmonious marriage of the two is passed from one generation to the next, both the family and greater community benefits dividends. Homer, the blind poet who authored the greatest works of our race, tells us that ‘none of the heroines of the past could match’ Odysseus’ wife, Penelope’s, ‘skill in handicrafts, intelligence and cunning’. Men aspire to be worthy of women, and vice versa. The sexes are complementary, and when they are unable to find a woman to face the world with, men often self-destruct or gravitate to extreme creeds that give them a chance to excel at being men.

Is it really surprising that so many alienated and disenfranchised sons of the Islamic diaspora are keen to embrace the doctrine of Jihad? The cult of martyrdom is a good example of a system that advocates self-sacrifice in the name of something greater than oneself. As always, when something so inherent and instinctual isn’t properly harnessed and channelled, misery ensues. In the absence of clear direction and accountability, this potent force of active masculine energy degenerates into something destructive for all involved. These men perceive they are unable to attain a modicum of standing or respect in society without surrendering to a feminised world. The emphasis on female freedom has created a generation of female fecklessness, with young men left with no way to assert or express themselves.

Women in both the United Kingdom and U.S. enjoy a strongly female-orientated television culture, as well as explicit state support for ‘feminist’ causes. The phrase ‘being taken to the cleaners’ indicates something that is uniquely Western. This is the female initiated no-fault divorce, often involving the state-sanctioned extraction of backbreaking amounts of wealth from her former husband, and in most cases making off with the children as additional objects in this legal theft. We have gathered here a number of statistics to provide factual proof of the devastation caused by these actions in the feminist-precipitated ‘gender war’. The best statistics we were able to find are sourced from the United States. Despite legal variation in how women are supported, the eventual consequence is the same. That is, permanently damaging children by breaking their faith in human relationships. Given the variety of races, living standards and cultures in the U.S, these statistics indicate that the trauma of fatherlessness is something that transcends all these things, and can never be solved by increasing welfare payments to ‘single mothers’.

Shockingly:

63% of youth suicides are from fatherless homes (US Dept. Of Health/Census) – 5 times the average.

85% of all children who show behavior disorders come from fatherless homes – 20 times the average. (Center for Disease Control)
71% of all high school dropouts come from fatherless homes – 9 times the average. (National Principals Association Report)
Fatherless boys and girls are: twice as likely to drop out of high school; twice as likely to end up in jail; four times more likely to need help for emotional or behavioral problems. [US D.H.H.S. news release, March 26, 1999]
70% of youths in state-operated institutions come from fatherless homes – 9 times the average. (U.S. Dept. of Justice, Sept. 1988)
85% of all youths in prison come from fatherless homes – 20 times the average. (Fulton Co. Georgia, Texas Dept. of Correction)
80% of rapists motivated with displaced anger come from fatherless homes. [Criminal Justice & Behaviour, Vol 14, pp. 403-26, 1978]
90% of adolescent repeat arsonists live with only their mother. [Wray Herbert, “Dousing the Kindlers,” Psychology Today, January, 1985, p. 28]

Women also appear to be battered with more frequency, not by their husbands, but by their lovers/live in boyfriends.

“Females living in households comprised of one female adult with children experienced intimate partner violence at a rate more than 10 times higher than households with married adults with children and 6 times higher than households with one female only.” (Intimate Partner Violence, 1993–2010, US Department of Justice)

I wonder how many of these men were also raised by single mothers?

And what of sexual assault?

In the US, the majority of sexual assault victims are children, accounting for a staggering 70%. Children living with both biological parents are at the lowest risk of being sexually assaulted out of all. Those who have single mothers with live-in boyfriends are at the highest risk. (Sexual Children of Young Children as Reported to Law Enforcement: Victim, Incident, and Offender Characteristics, US Department of Justice)

Rather than liberating women, the deconstruction of the patriarchal family unit has left both women and children at the mercy of post-civilisational chaos, in which the resulting cycle is one of self-perpetuating disorder and dysfunction.

No amount of scolding boys and men for their instincts will do. Nor will sticking them in the corner to play war RPGs, all doped up on Ritalin, self-loathing, bitter and angry against their other halves. The sun and moon need one another, just as Mars needs Venus. This was something self-evident until very recently.

For all the nonsensical talk of ‘gay marriage’, the phrase ‘matrimony’ derives directly from the Latin for wedlock, ‘matrimonium’ (‘To become a mother’). Until we decided that feelings were more important than families, ‘holy matrimony’ meant just that, and motherhood carried with it the responsibility of wedlock, mutual support, and mutual respect.

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